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Shuttling Forward:
Tailoring Mediations to
Meet Family Needs

Part 2: Friday, December 3, 2021*
8:45 AM - 5 PM Virtual Symposium
Social Activity Immediately After

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8:45 AM Welcome

9:00 AM

Cleansing Your Proverbial Mediator Lens For A Greater View of Tomorrow
(2 CEs, 2 SW Contact Hours Pending)

Dr. Camille Jones, LMSW, CEAP
Managing Director
Chartum Jones Therapeutic Consulting

A discussion on the significant societal changes in and around mediation demonstrates how and why use of the process has vastly increased. Through this success, its growth also emphasizes the critical importance of preparation, transformation, and respect for the evolving landscape of the field. Often when you have mastered a craft, your viewership or lens can develop blindspots as you begin to operate from a stance of habit rather than from the inspiration of new discovery. Through interactive engagement, this energized discussion will challenge and heighten innovative thought on the importance of advancing beyond the mindset of 'this is the way we have always done it’. There will be an emphasis on how a blend of joint and shuttled practice helps families in distress. Mediators are far more sophisticated and nuanced in their management of the process to be stalled by a lack of adjustment. Therefore, this discussion will look to champion change starting with the cleansing of your proverbial mediator lens.

11 AM Break

11:15 AM

Expanding the World of Mediation through Diversity, Equity and Inclusion
(1.5 CEs, 1.5 CLEs Pending, 1.5 SW Contact Hours Pending)

Annilus Gilot, Esq., Principal Attorney at Gillot & Associates, P.C. and Financial Services Professional for Mass Mutual
Hooney Heoh, Esq., Associate Attorney at Barrows Levy, PLLC
Talaiya Safdar, Esq., Safdar Law & Mediation Group, P.C.
Christine Perumal, Esq., Director at Safe Horizon Domestic Violence Law Project

What does this mean? Why is it important for all of us? How do we do it? Whether you are interested in learning more about 1) the need for more mediators of diverse backgrounds, 2) how we can make the mediation process available to a more diverse population, or 3) how we can be more sensitive to the needs of our current mediation clients, this session is for you. Join us for a complex discussion about what diversity and inclusion actually means and why it matters. We will hear stories and personal insights from a panel of accomplished professionals, all with varied ethnic and cultural backgrounds and life experiences. This will be a curated roundtable conversation where mediators can learn and ask questions in a safe environment.

12:45 PM Lunch Break

1:15 PM

The Room Where it Happens: Utilizing the Right Tools and Supports
(1.5 CLEs Pending, 1.5 CEs, 1.5 SW Contact Hours Pending)

Ron Ousky, Esq.
Collaborative Attorney & Mediator
Ousky Law Office

For high-functioning families, mediation can provide opportunities for deeper resolution and truly durable agreements through facilitative, (and sometimes transformative) methods. For families with greater challenges, mediation may be the best pathway to simple resolution through more directive, (or even evaluative) skills, sometimes through creative shuttling and other techniques. How do mediators decide what is the best approach for a family? How and when should they pivot when an approach is not working? How does this effect them professionally and personally? For mediation to reach the full continuum of families, a robust toolbox will help mediators adapt to the needs of those who seek our services. Additionally, mediators can utilize a number of supports for clients inside and outside the room including financial experts, mental health professionals, divorce coaches, review attorneys and more. This presentation will look at how skilled mediators and support professionals can team up to help clients achieve their best outcomes.

2:45 PM Break

3 pm

Can We Be Neutral When CoParenting Covid?
(1.5 CEs, 1.5 CLEs Pending, 1.5 SW Contact Hours Pending)

Through a facilitated discussion about one of the most challenging topics facing our coparenting clients today, this session will address mediation ethics when faced with the vaccination dilemma. How can mediators check their biases and remain neutral when parents have opposing views regarding the gravity of Covid, the safety of the various covid vaccines, and the important medical decisions that need to be made on behalf of children between the ages of 5 and 18? Is the mediator’s role any different when the parties are in the midst of a mediation process than when the parties already have an agreement and are engaged in a post-judgment disagreement? What are the ethical considerations and pitfalls? Do we truly know what the courts would do? Does that matter? This session will provide an opportunity to engage with these questions, ask additional ones, and potentially shape our communities’ approach to these pressing issues.

4:30 PM Takeaways/Group Discussion

5 PM Social Activity

What is divorce mediation?

Divorce mediation is a voluntary settlement process used frequently and successfully by married couples who want to divorce, and by domestic partners who want to separate. Divorce mediation gives couples the option to plan their futures rationally, and in an atmosphere of cooperation and mutual respect. With the assistance of a trained divorce mediator, you can reach an agreement that is custom-made for your family, your finances and your future.

Divorce mediation is the preferred choice for couples and families facing separation and divorce because it provides a cost-saving means to reach agreements in a cooperative setting. At the same time, divorce mediation gives couples more control over the process and decision-making. As a result, communication between couples is better so resolutions take less time. Learn more.


The Divorce Mediation Quiz

 The Divorce Mediation Quiz

Even if you and your partner do not agree on much, divorce mediation could still be for you. Check out The Divorce Mediation Quiz for typical issues to think about when considering divorce mediation. If you and your partner think that divorce mediation could be a sensible solution for your family, you should learn more by meeting with a divorce mediator who can answer questions specific to your situation.

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