FRIDAY, Sept. 20th 


Upstate Symposium


8:30 am to 4 pm (Symposium)

New! 4 pm to 6 pm (Cocktails & Networking)




 Register Today!

Changing the Game: Strategic Decision Making in Mediation

8:30 a.m. - 4:00 p.m. Symposium* (With Breakfast & Lunch)
4 pm to 6 pm Cocktails** & Networking

At the Beautiful and Historic (Recently Renovated)

Locust Hill Country Club, Pittsford, NY 14534 

We will be returning to the recently renovated Locust Hill Country Club for the 2019 Upstate Symposium. Building on our success last year, we will continue to hold the event on a Friday. Plus, we are adding a special cocktail reception and networking event that will be co-sponsored by the Collaborative Law Association of the Rochester Area (CLARA) and the Rochester Association of Family Mediators (RAFM).

Topics and speakers will include:

Applying Game Theory To Divorce Mediation
(3.5 Mental Health CEs Pending)

Game theory is all about strategic decision making and making sure systems are in place to take advantage of strategy. By applying the principles of game theory to divorce mediation, we can redefine the rules and payoff structure to create a process in which the most rational strategy to achieve goals is cooperative behavior. 

During this extended and interactive session, Don Boice, LCSWR, will address key elements of game theory including: 

- Ten myths

- Process standards (from small and simple to big and complex, always focusing on values)

- Content standards (taking turns negotiating proposals, how to look out for both parties, bargaining/negotiating the best deal for the family‘s long-term life goals)

- Information management (complete, verifiable, how to build trust, how to include screening and signaling)

- Decision-making procedures for the future (What guides those decisions and why?)

Rolling the Dice on Finances
(2.5 CLEs Pending)

Navigating the financial future is a daunting task for divorcing couples. There are a lot of moving parts and no one-size-fits-all solutions. It is critical to understand what the financial picture looks like in each individual case. That means carefully cataloging income, expenses, assets and liabilities, and evaluating how to treat them in the context of each couple's needs, objectives and even life expectancy.

During this session, a panel of experts including Kris Jenks, CFA, Julie Mersereau, Esq., Katie Castro, CDFA, and Kristin Coffey, CVA, will address: 

- Realistic financial planning: that pesky statement of net worth; protecting each spouse financially; where will the money come from; the tax consequences of divorce

- Retirement assets: what they are and how they work; options for dividing retirement assets; QDRO essentials and timing

- Business owners: key concepts in the valuation process; special considerations in a mediation/collaborative law setting


Registration Now Open!

 Super Early Bird Pricing (Now through August 23): $100 NYSCDM Members; $120 Non-members

Early Bird Pricing (From August 24-September 9): $110 NYSCDM Members; $130 Non-members

 Regular Pricing (From September 10-20): $120 NYSCDM Members; $140 Non-members

* Includes all sessions, materials, hot/cold breakfast, lunch, all-day refreshments and free parking!

** Cocktail reception includes hors d'oeuvres and first drink. Additional drinks available via cash bar. 


If you have questions about the symposium content, please contact the chair:

Renee LaPoint

For technical questions about your registration, please contact NYSCDM Executive Director:

Patty Murray

Important Details 

REFUNDS: For requests received via email by September, 9th, refunds will be granted as follows: amount paid, less a $25 administrative fee. Thereafter, no refunds will be granted. 

SPECIAL NEEDS: If you have any dietary, ADA or other special requirements, please email [email protected] unless you have already indicated them on the registration form.

SYMPOSIUM MATERIALS: About a week before the symposium, you will receive conference materials via Dropbox.

*NYSDRA members and MEMBERS OF OTHER STATE ORGANIZATIONS THAT DO NOT PRACTICE IN NEW YORK, are eligible for NYSCDM member rates. Government employees are eligible for member rates as well. Please email dire[email protected] 

CONTINUING LEGAL EDUCATION: “New York State Council on Divorce Mediation has been certified by the New York State Continuing Legal Education Board as an Accredited Provider of continuing legal education in the State of New York from July 25, 2018 – July 24. 2021.” CLE credits will be earned depending on sessions attended. All sessions are suitable for newly appointed and experienced attorneys. Continuing Education credits are provided for beginning and advanced mediators."

CONTINUING EDUCATION for Mental Health Professionals are approved for select presentations and co-sponsored by R. Cassidy Seminars. Attendees can choose to purchase MH CEs during or shortly after the conference via an online portal provided by R. Cassidy. For details, please consult Kate Bar-Tur at [email protected]

FINANCIAL HARDSHIP: NYSCDM’s Financial hardship policy is available upon written request. To apply, write Connie Fraser at 95 Allens Creek Road, Building 2, Suite 123, Rochester, New York 14618.

If you have any questions, feel free to contact 
Patty Murray, NYSCDM Executive Director.

New York State Council on Divorce Mediation
1732 1st Ave #21294, New York NY 10128
516) 227-2595 - [email protected]